Decision-making is a highly valued skill in a professional setting. But being able to make decisions with no drama and overwhelm brings a lot of ease into a private life too.
You know what I mean if you have ever experienced a certain level of anxiety from the number of options presented to you. It could have shown up in more significant decisions, such as looking for a new job, a new place to live, or where to get married. Or it could have come up with more minor decisions, such as - what to wear, eat or ways to spend time during the weekend.
I don't know about you, but it feels as though the world has become saturated with options, so it's no wonder that we get overwhelmed when we need to choose only one of them and leave all others behind.
In this post, I want to focus on how making decisions can become more manageable to support you in those big or even small daily decisions. So, if you are with me on recognizing that being able to decide is something that would make your life easier, let's look at the factors that prevent you from choosing in the first place:
too many options to choose from,
fear of missing out on all opportunities left behind,
fear of making a wrong decision.
There may be other factors, too. I would love to hear from you if something else prevents you from making a decision.
We can eliminate all these factors if this one condition is in place:
You know what YOU want!
It may sound basic, but in my years of working with clients, I realized that it is prevalent for us NOT to know what we want. And here I mean - what we REALLY want. You may notice that when you are deciding about something, you are taking different considerations into account, such as what is best for my family, how it will impact my career, how will it help me in the future, etc. These are great questions to ask, but it's essential to understand that they are all driven by your 'head,' which brings you into the space of looking at external factors rather than within. To understand what you truly want, you need to ask your heart. What is it that YOU really want? What is it that would make YOU happy? Take all other factors out of the equation and tune into your heart's desires. Trust that it always knows what's best for you. It helps to do this in a quiet space, where you are not disturbed. If it helps, feel free to close your eyes and ask your heart the question - "what do you want?" wait for the answer. Usually, the first thing you feel is the right answer for you. Sometimes it may come as a surprise, as your head wants to go in another direction.
Once you get clear on what you want, it will become much easier to decide. You can choose to follow your heart or find ways to align your head and heart. I often do this with my clients during the coaching sessions. The beauty of tuning in often is that you will build a new habit, get to know yourself better, and e better able to make decisions.
Let me know what part resonated with you and if you will give it a try.